23. Lying About Moving To Spain / Mentir à propos de l’Espagne

Not only was Kevin constantly lying, but he made me lie too – about moving to Spain. His reason was that he did not want the school to speculate that he was going to follow me because he was worried that they would cut his hours. So I had to tell everyone that my plan was to go back to university in September of that year. In the meantime, I would be staying with my mother and be unemployed for the next nine months. (He was happy to use my goal of going back to university as part of the lie. But when it was about me really going back to university, he was angry and controlling about it. He really is so sick.)

I contested so many times to lying. I did not see anything wrong with the truth. And I did not see him losing his hours as his classes were fixed classes, meaning that they were regular every week. But every time I said that I was not going to lie, he would get angry at me. He did not know how to communicate any other way without getting angry. I lied not for him, but because I was afraid of him. Now I believe that he wanted me to lie because he had no intention of moving to Spain in the first place.


Non seulement Kevin mentait constamment, mais il m’a aussi faite mentir – au sujet de mon déménagement en Espagne. Sa raison était qu’il ne voulait pas que l’école spécule sur le fait qu’il me suive parce qu’il craignait qu’ils lui réduisent ses heures. J’ai donc dû dire à tout le monde que j’avais l’intention de retourner à l’université en Septembre de cette année-là. Entre temps, je serais chez ma mère et au chômage pour les neuf prochains mois. (Il était content d’utiliser mon projet de retourner à l’université dans le cadre du mensonge. Mais quand il s’agissait vraiment que je retourne à l’université, il était en colère et contrôlait la situation. Il est vraiment cinglé).

J’ai contesté tant de fois ce mensonge. Je ne voyais pas le mal à dire la vérité. Et je ne le voyais pas perdre ses heures de cours car c’était des cours fixes, c’est-à-dire qu’ils étaient réguliers chaque semaine. Mais chaque fois que je disais que je n’allais pas mentir, il se fâchait après moi. Il ne savait pas communiquer autrement qu’en s’énervant. Je n’ai pas menti pour lui, mais parce que j’avais peur de lui. A l’heure actuelle, je crois qu’il voulait que je mente parce que dès le départ il n’avait pas eu l’intention de déménager en Espagne.


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