Kevin said to me that he wanted us to spend Christmas of 2015 together. I was afraid to tell him that I had planned to go visit my mother during Christmas. I was afraid that he would get angry. And this is not normal nor healthy in a couple. People should not be afraid to tell their partners of their plans in fear of making them angry.
A few weeks later, he said that he was going to visit his father for Christmas. I took this opportunity to tell him my plans for visiting my mother. However, everything always had to be on his terms. Had I had told him my plans first, I’m sure he would have gotten angry and made me feel guilty.