Towards the end of my time in Spain, Kevin was continuing to look for a new job. He found one in Jena, Germany and suggested we move there together. I told him firmly and clearly that if he wanted to move to Jena, he would be going there on his own and that I was going to focus on my own needs and my own goals. I was not going to sacrifice my life goals for him. I was not going to have a repeat of Spain. I was not going to have him tell me to move to Jena and then he would follow. I was not going to fall for that again and I made myself clear.
The strange part was that when I had made myself clear about this, he seemed to have had lost interest in Jena. Perhaps he realised that he would not have been able to convince me anymore and he gave up on that idea to further destroy my life.